The Tao of Steve Endures, Two Decades Later
In 2000, sisters Jenniphr and Greer Goodman created a Sundance darling called "The Tao of Steve,"...
A few years ago, one of the largest sales organizations in the world communicated the desire to purchase one of our training programs. The scope was to train tens of thousands of sales professionals annually. That got my attention. If we won, it would be our company’s largest and most profitable contract in our history.
We had previously worked with the senior VP of learning to implement a leadership development program, and they were extremely satisfied with the results. Because they were familiar with the receptivity concepts, the SVP believed we had a better approach to helping their sellers prospect for new customers. But as with all large deals, it’s never as simple as, “Great, I’ll pay your list price of $300 per person. Can you just shoot me the contract?”
Once their decision-making team decided they wanted our program, the contract needed to get through legal, procurement, and ultimately get approved by the president. To use funds earmarked for training by the end of the year, all this had to occur within a month and a half.
We were working with several major hurdles to getting this deal done:
Initially, I was at a loss for how to proceed. If I just slapped on the cheapest possible price, making my best offer, it would still be well outside their budget and negotiations would start. There just wasn’t the time required and too many layers to follow the typical negotiation process.
I decided not to negotiate. My strategy could be distilled down to three simple words: I trust you.
I offered a few data points related to what the market historically pays for content and what they have previously invested to train a smaller audience and then gave the SVP carte blanche to go make the deal happen.
I said, “You know what our content is worth, you know all the players, and you know your organization’s appetite to invest in this type of solution. You determine what you are willing to invest, and I will accept whatever price you offer. No negotiation. I will agree to whatever you can get approved.”
Here was his reaction: “Quite honestly, I’m speechless. Very bold approach. I had already had Susan figuring out how we can make this work on our end. Wow, the honesty and trust you are displaying is almost overwhelming. I’m blown away. You’re placing the utmost confidence in our sense of fair play, though you are correct—we will approach this with the highest integrity. Wow.”
This was not a manipulation tactic. This was not a move to get a better result. I did trust the team, so why would I negotiate? Why fight? I dropped the rope, the game ended, and the partnership began.
We instantly began working together. They immediately lifted the curtain and revealed the available funds and the probability of getting more. Another unintended outcome that surprised us was they now felt the weight of representing our organization. They suddenly felt responsible for ensuring ASLAN was treated fairly.
The question shifted from “What are you going to charge me?” to “How do we take care of ASLAN?” As a result, the SVP and his team did everything possible to persuade the economic buyers and procurement to increase the investment. They became my advocate. We were friends and team members working together for a common goal. The president signed the deal on Christmas Day.
Did I get a fair market value for my content? Honestly, I’m not sure. But I believe I got the maximum amount of money they could pay for that specific opportunity. Of that much I am confident.
If I believed it was a win-lose, they gave me the freedom to walk away, even though I communicated I would honor whatever price they offered. Because I dropped the rope and they were trustworthy, they weren’t going to force me to accept a win-lose deal.
Yes, I could have rolled the dice, let the existing funds evaporate, and attempted to sell the president on investing more. But that wasn’t a risk I was willing to take. I trusted my friend’s assessment of the situation.
I am not suggesting you should let every client determine your price. People tend to fall into two categories, givers and takers. Takers are looking for weakness to exploit, and they win when you lose. Givers focus on a win-win. When working with givers, you may want to consider allowing them to determine the outcome.
Most don’t have the authority to allow the customer to determine price, but think about what other areas you can allow the customer to determine the outcome. For example, payment terms, try it before you buy it, who’s responsible for miscellaneous expenses, cancellation, or even satisfying an unhappy customer. If you have zero latitude, look for any way that you can demonstrate you trust the customer by dropping the rope.
When the tug-of-war disappears, when you trust the other person and are unwilling to play the game, you are much more likely to receive the best value for your product, service, or solution. Over time, the results will far outweigh those from the adversarial approach.
Just the other day, I subleased one of our offices to a good friend in the real estate business. After determining he was interested in the office space, the conversation turned to price. I completely dropped the rope: “Steve, I trust you. You know more about the prices in the market than I do. You just let me know what’s fair, send me a lease, and we’re good to go.”
The translation was, “We aren’t going to play the negotiation game. You are solely responsible to represent the interest of both parties. If you would like to take advantage of me, you can.”
But here’s what I’ve learned: no one has. The other parties seem suddenly more concerned with getting a fair price than getting the best price. They live up to the trust extended.
If you try this approach, will you at some point get screwed? Possibly. But over time, if you build your strategy around trusting the other party, a high percentage will not disappoint.
If you have the authority to attempt this radical, non-negotiation strategy, consider these four parameters before giving the customer free rein to dictate price:
Tom Stanfill is CEO of the global sales training company ASLAN and author of the new book unReceptive.
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